When it comes to self-advocacy, knowing your worth is an important part of the journey. Developing a strong sense of self-worth allows you to recognize and celebrate your unique strengths, accept and be proud of your weaknesses, and create a healthy balance between the two. 

However, while self-worth may come easy to some, for others, it may prove to be a more difficult task. Making it that much harder to pursue their goals and advocate their needs. To overcome these challenges, it’s important to take intentional steps to build your self-worth and confidence over time. 

Here are six steps that can help you on your journey toward knowing your worth.

Step One: Focus on Learning instead of Performing 

Shift your focus away from seeking validation from external sources and instead concentrate on learning and developing new skills. Doing so lets you see your mistakes as opportunities for growth rather than failures. If all you are doing is worrying about how it will look to others instead of enjoying the process of learning, then you won’t be able to fully appreciate your worth.

Step Two: Let Go of External Influences

Stop comparing yourself to others or relying on external factors such as social media likes or job titles to define your worth. Instead, focus on your own unique qualities and strengths. You have no control about what people think of you. You can’t change everything about yourself to please others. Accepting yourself and believing in your value is the only way to truly know your worth.

Step Three: Reflect on Your Accomplishments, Strengths, and Weaknesses

Take the time to recognize and appreciate your past achievements and positive qualities. Practice being brutally honest with yourself about areas where improvement is possible, but don’t let these weaknesses define you.

Step Four: Practice Assertiveness 

Being assertive means expressing your needs, wants, and boundaries in a clear and respectful manner while also being open to listening to others. It involves standing up for yourself and advocating for what you believe in without being aggressive or passive. Some ways to practice assertiveness include using “I” statements, speaking up when you feel uncomfortable or disrespected, and setting reasonable boundaries.

Step Five: Recognize Value Beyond Your Accomplishments 

Acknowledge that your worth is not solely defined by your achievements or external factors. You have inherent value simply because you exist.

Step Six: Be Kind to Yourself

Treat yourself with compassion and kindness. Acknowledge your imperfections and mistakes without judgment, and celebrate your successes along the way. Remember that building self-worth is a journey, not a destination, and be patient with yourself as you grow.

Remember that developing self-worth is a process. It requires time and effort, but the rewards are well worth it. As you take these steps, you will gradually become more assertive and confident, with greater respect for your abilities and worth. With time you’ll become empowered to make decisions that are right for you, allowing you to live a joyful and purposeful life.